Trying Not to Think About Surgery

In 2 days, J goes in for his surgery. Almost a month later, he turns 13. A couple days ago, he asked me to take before and after pictures. I showed him this picture that I’d used for a recent blog post, and he decided it was a perfect before photo.


He’s not nervous about the surgery, although he knows we are – he came up and hugged me the other morning, and told me that he thought Ken and I were more nervous than him. He’s right.

Last week, J had his pre-surgical check-up. Today, I had to do the pre-surgery interview with the hospital. I’m trying to keep the surgery from being my main focus. It’s not always easy.

On Thursday, a friend will be guest posting for me. She’s sent her post to me to read; you’re in for a treat! ❤️

J is my little one. His brother, at 17, is nearly grown. I look at both of them and my heart swells. Before I had children, I never knew that I could feel like this. Before I married Ken, my life was simple, mostly constrained to the town I grew up in and the area where I went to college. Only about 45 minutes separates the two areas, so it was easy to live in Asheville, still one of my favorite places in the whole world, and travel back and forth to Marion to visit my parents and see my brothers when they were in town.

Now, I think about all of that and I look at my boys. It sometimes feels like it was just yesterday when I left for college. How can I have a nearly grown son who all too soon will be setting forth on his own adventures?

Next Tuesday, I’ll be back with a post and more pictures. Winter is fighting it’s last battle here, so while it’s frigid outside, it’s obvious that this is a losing battle and in a month or maybe two, the new shoots will be pushing up through the ground. Hopefully this year I can tame the wild roses that spread so abundantly and try to take over everything. Right now though, I’ll enjoy the evenings when I get to snuggle with my guys while we nibble on popcorn and watch reruns of NCIS. And try my best not to think about tomorrow. 💕

My boys


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  1. Charlotte Washburn February 17, 2016 at 1:39 am #

    Your boys are SO handsome Te-Ge! I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. All surgery has some risks but I think it will be fine, it’s normal to be concerned, Mama. 🙂 When I had open heart surgery in 2013, my family was much more worried than I was. One thing I know, when the nurses rolled me away from them and made them stay back I actually felt God move right into their place walking along beside me as we went down that hallway and through those double doors (and since they couldn’t see Him, He got through undetected).

    • Te-ge February 17, 2016 at 1:56 pm #

      Thank you so much, Charlotte! I really appreciate it, and I know in terms of surgery, this is a “relatively simple procedure” and I know God is right there with us – after searching for a plastic surgeon that our insurance would work with, we ended up finding an ophthalmic plastic surgeon (I had never even heard the term before).

      I love hearing about God walking right beside you as you went into surgery! I remember praying for you then, and I’m sure there were prayers going up from around the world. I love those times that God is so present with us. ❤️

  2. Susan February 17, 2016 at 2:41 pm #

    Te-ge, handsome sons and I am sure they are caring too by the things you have said. I feel confident that your son will be fine and what a relief you will all feel once the procedure is over. I will pray. ONWARD into a new beginning for J!! 🙂


    • Te-ge February 17, 2016 at 4:46 pm #

      Thank you so much, Susan! They are caring and precious, and I never thought I could love so much. 🙂

      It will be a relief when it’s over, I know J is ready for it to be done. Thank you so much for your prayers, I’m looking forward to this new beginning (just nervous about the trip to get there). ❤️

  3. Steve Loudermilk February 17, 2016 at 11:15 pm #

    Keeping you and your family in my prayers, Te-Ge…
    If J is anything like his Mother… He’s nothing to worry about!!

    • Te-ge February 18, 2016 at 7:51 pm #

      Thank you so much, Steve!!! J came through with shining colors, and is now home and resting on the sofa, playing a video game. 🙂

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